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The Manager of Your Home

In my last blog I kicked off a sort of series on housekeeping that I will be doing. I laid the foundation by providing a definition of what the word housekeeping means. One of the definitions was, “the management of a house and home affairs.” A manager’s job—in any facet—is to plan, coordinate and organize. Whether you are managing a multi-million dollar business or your home, these three components are vital. So as we are looking ahead to a New Year, this is your chance to develop a plan on how you will tackle your home. This will depend on … Continue reading →

Do You Play the Martyr?

Do you play the martyr? Here’s how you can know if you do. Do you ever say things like, “I’m the only one who ever picks up around here.” “Doesn’t anyone else ever see that the dog’s water dish is empty?” “No one else seems to notice the garbage overflowing.” Perhaps you have uttered similar words. What is the point? You say them loud enough so someone else can hear. Then you hope that they come to the realization of how truly selfish they have been. You expect them to jump up and come running to your aid, admitting how … Continue reading →

Why You Need to Take Time for You

There are generally two schools of thought when it comes to the idea of “me” time. You either believe you are deserving of it or you feel guilty if you take it. I used to play the martyr game. If I took time for me, I would lament how everything around me was going to fall apart. So others couldn’t really win with me. But the reality is that we really do need to take time for ourselves. When you think of taking time for yourself, fitness might not exactly be the first thing you think of. But fitness is … Continue reading →

No One Likes a Martyr

Martyrdom and single parenthood do not have to go hand in hand or be interchangeable. I know it can be really tough NOT to feel like a martyr–someone who is giving it up, doing it all, and who is downtrodden and overworked–but no one likes a martyr and it isn’t particularly healthy for us anyway… Think of how YOU feel when you are around someone who is acting like a martyr. It tends to make us feel angry, aggravated, annoyed, and guilty. It is just no fun to be around someone who is doing the “poor me” act. Even if … Continue reading →

Are You Falling Into the Martyr Trap?

You may have been led to believe that parenthood and martyrdom are synonymous. Perhaps, you often find yourself giving up and giving in the course of family life. It’s one thing to be willing to make the necessary commitments and sacrifices that parenting requires, it’s quite another if you use those sacrifices as a means to control or manipulate family members. How do you know if you are one, and what can you do if you find yourself often playing the martyr? However you slice it, martyrdom in the family is not a good thing. By assuming the role of … Continue reading →

Comforting Your Little One: Help Them to Thrive

It’s a fundamental of parenthood, comforting your child. Your baby requires a healthy diet of nutritious food whether it is breast milk, formula or solids along with a healthy diet of hugs and kisses in order to thrive. Your child craves your attention and it’s extremely natural for you to give it. Hugs and Kisses From the moment they are born, we begin with the hugs and kisses. We cradle them. We snuggle them. We give them comfort and we continue to do this as they get older. There’s nothing like the feeling of your little one returning your hug. … Continue reading →

Last Minute Holiday Preparations

The countdown is on!  Are you feeling stressed, frazzled and worried that you won’t get everything done in the next few days? The holidays are just so much more enjoyable when we aren’t overwhelmed.  But sometimes we bring it on ourselves.  So to help avoid some of this, consider the following tips for last minute holiday preparations. First, plan to have more than enough food and drink if you are hosting.  This way you don’t have to be concerned about running out and you will have plenty of leftovers for the next couple of days. Second, keep things simple.  Don’t … Continue reading →

Bad Housekeeping Habits

What is the biggest pet peeve you have when it comes to the housekeeping habits of others? Because let’s face it. There is probably something that others in our home do that we wish they wouldn’t do. For instance…I wish my family wouldn’t leave the empty cardboard tube on the paper towel holder. And instead they would throw it out and put a new roll on. I wish my family wouldn’t keep stuffing garbage into the can, when it is clearly starting to fall out, and instead see it needs to be taken out. I wish I wouldn’t go into … Continue reading →

Freeing Myself

The refrigerator is stocked and yes, it contains a ham. But this year I’m not making the ham until New Year’s. I have decided to drastically change things up. What you will find stocked in my refrigerator and cabinets are taco fixin’s. This Christmas we are going the non-traditional route and having a huge taco bar. My husband is going to make his delicious Spanish rice and I will also be making homemade pico de gallo and a tres leches cake (a white cake made with 3 different kinds of milk—my version is 2% milk, whipped cream and coconut cream). … Continue reading →

Making This a Stress-Less Christmas

We are just a few days away from Christmas. If you were to ask me if I feel ready, I would have to honestly say no. But at the same time, I’m not sweating it. Gift shopping-wise, I am fine. In fact, this is the easiest I have ever had it. No adults are exchanging and the only other children in the family are my nephews. But my sister and I agreed to not buy for each other’s kids this year. My children want money, so I don’t even have to pick their gifts out. So in this department, I … Continue reading →